Stinkin’ Thinkin’.

This is something that came up in a conversation with a Twitter buddy this morning and it’s been running through my mind the rest of the day.

Anyone in recovery knows what it is, though they may not know it by that name. They know what damage it can do, though.

There are two specific ways stinkin’ thinkin’ can come into play and attempt to sabotage recovery… whether that recovery is about substance abuse, alcoholism, or mental illness. Or a combination of any or all of the above.

On one end of the spectrum, stinkin’ thinkin’ will try to convince you that you are in some way unworthy and unable to achieve and maintain any meaningful recovery. “You’re not strong enough… You’re not good enough… You need that drink. You need those drugs. You don’t deserve to be happy/sober/clean/at peace…”

The other end of the spectrum, you hear these lies… “You’ve been doing great. You’re so much better. You can handle one drink. You can do one hit. A reward.for keeping yourself together.” Or… “You’re fine… you don’t need those meds anymore.”

Of course, there are variations… but they all work to undo whatever you are trying to do to maintain some normalcy and peace on your life.

Take care to listen to what your inner voice is telling you. If it’s anything that might lead you back to using, drinking or neglecting following your treatment plan… brush those thoughts aside, think of how far you have come, how much you have to lose and think of the positives/blessings in your life.

When stinkin’ thinkin’ hits, take a deep breath, tell it to take a hike and just… be. Just be until you get your balance back. Then leave that negative thought process behind and move on.

We all go through it…

We can all get through it.

Hang in there and remember you aren’t alone.

I’ve Learned…

I’ve learned…

no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I’ve learned…
you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.

I’ve learned…

making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as making a ‘life’.

I’ve learned…

life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I’ve learned…

you shouldn’t go through life with catcher’s mitts on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back sometimes.

I’ve learned…

if you pursue happiness, it will elude you But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I’ve learned…

whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I’ve learned…

even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.

I’ve learned…

every day, you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch — holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

I’ve learned…

I still have a lot to learn.

*Blogger’s Note: I have no idea who wrote this or why… but it moved me, so I decided to share it here.

Things I’ve Learned…

The last five years have been a bit of a roller coaster ride when it comes to online friendships.
In turns it has been fun, educational, uplifting, frightening, disheartening, devastating and back again,
Here are some things I have learned. Who knows? They might help someone out there avoid some of the pitfalls I have run into.

1. Don’t ever give anyone you only know from online total trust unless they are able to prove they deserve it (very few will ever be able to).
2. If something feels wrong… it is! ALWAYS trust your instincts.
3. If your friendship requires a go-between/middle man for communication… it’s not a friendship. Let it go.
4. If you have a question or a concern about a friend, go directly to the source… don’t ask someone else.
5. Don’t believe that everyone you know online always has your best interests at heart, even when they say they do.
6. NEVER trust “but I’m the only one you can trust”.
7. A friend who is truly loyal and trustworthy and will back you come hell or high water, doesn’t need to constantly remind you of it. They already know you’re well aware of it because they’ve proven it.
8. If you have a friend who does need to keep reminding you how great a friend they are… find out what they’re saying about you when your back is turned, so to speak. And be prepared for fallout from others if you decide to keep them as friends. 10 to 1, they’re reminding you how great they are to divert attention from the fact that they’re running you down to everyone else.
9. Trust yourself before you trust anyone else. Follow your heart… it will very seldom steer you wrong.

I let the wrong people interfere with friendships I had with others. I’ve lost a lot of friends I truly cared about because of it and I hurt a lot of people I care about because of it.
With any luck, I may be able to recover and start over with some of those friends. There are others I know I will never get back.
The only person I can blame in this is myself. I let the wrong people influence me. I trusted them. I decided I was going to listen even when something inside me was telling me something was off. That was my mistake and no one else’s.

Just be careful out there in World Wide Web.